There are few basic emotions that are part of a human life: fear, joy, surprise, sadness, and anger. Anger is an important emotion and it is a part of human life. Anger in a controlled manner and on appropriate occasions is fine. The problem starts when it gets out of hand and one remains angry all or most of the time. Then anger starts taking its toll on human life and cause chronic diseases like heart problems, cancer, diabetes and many others. Men and women get angry alike. However, it has been observed that as a person gets older he or she becomes less angry and has more control on his or her emotions.
You cannot throw anger out of your life completely as it is a part of human life and is an important emotion just like any other emotion. If you could throw emotions out of your life you won’t have any feelings. You won’t be able to enjoy your life at all without emotions. So do not think about getting rid of anger altogether. In fact, think of managing your anger appropriately.
The main problem of anger starts when it becomes a habit. You get angry on small things. You get angry with anyone, and everyone. You’re angry most of the time. You go to bed angry and you get up in the morning full of anger. And the bad thing is that, you get so much used to it that you don’t even realize that it’s not only destroying your own life and health, but also destroying your relationships with your family, friends, and colleagues. People start to avoid you because of your loose temper.
You do have to have some anger. For example, if you see a social injustice in your community, it is only anger that helps you raise your voice against it. And you take some legal action, or take the issue to concerned authorities etc. This is an example of a positive use of anger as an emotion. If you realize that anger is a tool that when used appropriately can be very helpful for you in life.
When anger becomes a regular part of your life as a habit then it’s time to get help for that. The good news is that getting help for anger is not difficult, whether for yourself or for someone else. You need emotional support from the people around; they can be your family members or close friends. One other important source of help is information. This can be articles on anger, books, video or audio tapes on anger management etc. Without knowing all the aspects of anger, it will not be feasible to have complete control on anger. For that purpose, you need to get more information about anger. Read some good articles or books; buy some video or audio program on anger management to learn more about handling anger.
When you need help for your anger, you also need to see if someone else needs your help with anger as well. This way you can create a win-win situation for both of you. You can even create a group of people who can support and help each other. They can also provide feedback to each other on improvements and mistakes.
So how would you evaluate your improvements and achievements with anger management? Well, you’ll feel a difference in yourself. You’ll feel relaxed and happier. The people around you who were affected by your anger will let you know that you have improved. Your relationships will start improving. You’ll start caring more about other people’s needs. You’ll be more compassionate to yourself too.
However, keep one thing in mind that this is not a quick fix. You have taken a lot of time to create a habit of anger, and it will take some time to unlearn this bad habit. But rest assured that you will improve gradually and at one point, you’ll feel completely free from the grip of anger. And that will be the time when you’ll start enjoying your life.
So how do you continue this journey? Well, you need to feed your mind with quality material and information about anger management. You can find valuable articles and other help material on this website as well which can help you improve gradually. The first step, however, is to decide that you have to change this habit. Once you have decided this, you’ll be on the right track of creating a healthier and happier life free of anger.